just another day

so this weekend was pretty much ultra relaxed. matilda had spent wednesday and thursday night with HIM so i wanted a nice relaxing weekend... on a side note... matilda called me BOTH days as soon as she was in HIM's car on the ride home from school. it was refreshing for me because it actually made me feel important to her. i know that sounds silly, but that's me.

saturday we, me, matilda and my parentals, drove to a super great place to eat... if you have one near you, i HIGHLY suggest you take a taste. may i recommend the 'caprese'... after that we drove to a very nice and refreshing nursery. matilda befriended a couple dogs who lounged under big potted trees and old country porches. then she saw the kitty... and it was PAINFUL to pull her away from the sweet, sweet kitty.

the day was nice and relaxing. except for the driving. i've discovered that there aren't that many nice drivers left in the world. not to say that I'M the nicest driver, but i do believe in karma and will let the occasional last minute turning vehcile over into my lane to save them some grief. but i didn't find maybe people extending the same amount of courtesy to me.

case in point... the road to this nursery was just off a major highway here that is under construction. has BEEN under construction since 1985 and shows NO signs of completing anytime soon... so the feeder roads are all discombobulated as such. i'm travelling along and realize 'OMG - my lane is turn only..' so i signal that i need to get into the right lane and hope that a NICE driver will slow down and let me over... that isn't the case. i keep driving with my signal on as i approach the turn in the road and edge my way over in front of an explorer.. who might i add.. had slowed down a bit, then SPED up to PREVENT me from moving in front of her... as i merged over - she honks her horn at me and I wave 'hi!' from the front seat... as she passes me up a bit down the road.. she literally glared at me and i waved a very energetic 'HELLO TO YOU TOO!!!' i didn't show her the finger cause what good does that do really.. i waved. call me stupid but i figured she hates me anyway, i might as well add to it. it'll give her a funny story to tell her friends. 'do you know what this moronic girl had the nerve to do! WAVE at me !!' karma will get her. my father suggested i follow her and give her a lesson in courtesy. but i decided that she might be crazy and i, too would be crazy to actually DO that. although my uncle has.. but i digress.

all in all... be nice drivers people. it takes more effort and anger to prevent people from getting where they need to be so just make someone's day and let in a car or two. you never know when that person in the wrong lane will be you.

...and i am telling you

yes, i AM telling you.. well not YOU you, but a particular guy in our office. i'll paint the history for you so it all makes sense...

this co-director person was hired and he's not exactly fitting in well with ANYONE in this department, let alone his team. he's pushy, negative, and worst of all, doesn't have much respect for women. meaning, he has a man validate anything he's heard from a woman. which really pisses me off, but whatever. i don't work for him.. just WITH him - which is bad enough.

so after he started, he made his rounds taking out various people to lunch. members of his team, other random folks he thought would benefit him and what not. now, these weren't GROUP lunches, they were one on one lunches. he had asked me once and i brushed it off by saying that it wasn't necessary but thank you. apparently that only bought me another couple weeks...

he asked again, 'you need to decide on a day when i can take you to lunch.' i said, 'really, it's not necessary thank you.' and he said, 'i know is not necessary, just pick a day that works.' i said, 'i'll get back to you.' not my best response but again, it bought me another couple weeks. so when i got my promotion he emailed me congratulations and said, 'we need to celebrate with lunch.' i chose not to respond. then two weeks ago.. he brought it up again. i said again, thank you but not necessary. his response this time was, 'i'm giving you the option to pick the day if you don't, i'll pick it.' i laughed and said, 'good luck with that.' and that was the end of it... until yesterday.

we had to meet to prepare for a meeting tomorrow and during that meeting, i disagreed with things he told me, all about how he wanted me to send things to certain people who had no business getting the information... blah blah blah - typical work stuff, but i made it clear i didn't agree with it... at the end of the meeting here's how it went down:

dude: 'so you never selected a day for me to take you to lunch so i'm going to do it.'
me: 'you know, about lunch, i'm just going to say thank you, but no thank you. my lunch is my personal time away from work with friends or to run errands. i don't even go to lunch with my boss so please don't be offended. so i'm going to say thank you, but no thank you. is that okay?'
(side note: as soon as i said, 'is that okay?' i wanted to shoot myself, but it was too late.)

dude:' no, it's not okay.'
me: 'well it's going to have to be. are we thru here?'
dude: 'yes. i think so.'
me: 'okay.'

after hearing his 'no, it's not okay.' i was sooo glad i said it. so, i confided in another manager here who is sort of a mentor for me, who advised i create a log about all these incidents just in case it gets worse. apparently this guy is under close watch due to lack of performance and he's on a short leash with the big boss.

i was pretty proud of myself for standing up and not letting this moron bully me. i've said yes when i meant no far too many times in my life and i'm not doing it anymore. 11 years was enough.

... and i am telling you... i am NOT going!' the rest of this song does NOT apply but that bit certainly does!

girl power! rock on! NEVER say 'yes' if you really mean 'no!' the only one who suffers is you.

it's a hard lesson to learn, but a good one.

i like the way you move

okay okay okay... yes, it's been FAR too long since we've last talked, but here i am...

sadly, there is nothing new to report.

although i have gotten pretty good at zero-ing in on hot guy at the gym. it's like my eyes are lo-jack and i can find him anywhere, anytime. not that he's looking at me of course. i've decided he IS one of those guys who know they're good looking. he probably thinks he's out of everyone's league... maybe he is... doubtful, but who knows. so for now, i just admire his hotness and the way he moves when he's pumping iron. i no longer use the machines near him... no point. i don't want to watch espn unless a team i like is playing.. i'd rather watch something else.. there's lots of eye candy. but i am there to work out and burn calories.. of course it never hurts to have something to focus on. right?

on a side note... i was checking out at my local grocery store sunday evening... and the checker guy (who was probably 23 / 24 years old)... said to me, 'what year are you?' his speech was very slurred so i wasn't sure what he asked me... so i smiled so as not to answer incorrectly... he asked again, 'what year are you? what school did you just enroll in this year?' i said, 'what?' he goes, 'are you a freshman or a sophomore? there's not much difference in appearance between the two.' i looked at him and said, 'honey, i'm way past sophomore but thanks for asking me.' and i smiled...

now you have to know how i looked at this point... i had just come from working out. which essentially means, my hair was a fright, little to no make up and i probably stank to the heavens. and this dude asks me if i'm a sophomore in college... as if. i looked older at that moment than i do now! i was flattered but i think he was just being flirty and that was his way of picking up a MUCH older woman. i should've humored him. if he were cuter i might have.

book alert: my fave book that i recently finish, in record time i might add, 'emily's reasons why not'... i LOVED this book. i think this was made for a tv series.. VERY short lived series. i never watched it. but the book, i loved. add it to your list. and i hope you like it too.